So you’ve got more ideas about how to pickyour life partner in Part 1. Here Wait But Whyexplores more on what makes a happy lifepartnership.
Often, the key to succeeding at something big isto break it into its tiniest pieces and focus onhow to succeed at just one piece.
When we examined procrastination, we talkedabout how a great achievement is just what along series of unremarkable tasks looks like from far away. In the pixel post, we looked at a humanlife up close and saw that it was just an ordinary Wednesday, again and again and again—and thatachieving life happiness was all about learning to be happy on a routine weekday.
I think the same idea applies to marriage.
From afar, a great marriage is a sweeping love story, like a marriage in a book or a movie. Andthat’s a nice, poetic way to look at a marriage as a whole.
But human happiness doesn’t function in sweeping strokes, because we don’t live in broadsummations—we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where ourhappiness is determined. So if we want to find a happy marriage, we need to think small—we need to look at marriage upclose and see that it’s built not out of anything poetic, but out of 20,000 mundane Wednesdays.
Marriage isn’t the honeymoon in Thailand—it’s day four of vacation that you take together.Marriage is not celebrating the closing of the deal on the first house—it’s having dinner in thathouse for the 4,386th time. And it’s certainly not Valentine’s Day.
Marriage is Forgettable Wednesday. Together.
So I’ll leave the butterflies and the kisses in the rain and the twice-a-day sex to you—you’ll workthat part out I’m sure—and spend this post trying to figure out the best way to make ForgettableWednesday as happy as possible.